Comments on: Tell Them The Truth http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2008/11/tell-them-the-truth/ The Power of Appreciation Sat, 04 Feb 2012 03:26:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: Scott DeBergh http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2008/11/tell-them-the-truth/#comment-340 Scott DeBergh Mon, 24 Nov 2008 02:21:40 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=111#comment-340 I am inspired every time I read your blog entries. You have changed the way I look at the world after reading your book and it is always good to get the Mike-Robbins.com reminder about the Power Appreciation. I never thought about honesty......tough news honesty.....to also be part of your definition of appreciation. But you are right! I have a few situations that I need mend and I know feel 110% empowered to do so. Thanks, Mike!! I am inspired every time I read your blog entries. You have changed the way I look at the world after reading your book and it is always good to get the Mike-Robbins.com reminder about the Power Appreciation. I never thought about honesty……tough news honesty…..to also be part of your definition of appreciation. But you are right! I have a few situations that I need mend and I know feel 110% empowered to do so. Thanks, Mike!!

]]> By: Limarose http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2008/11/tell-them-the-truth/#comment-339 Limarose Sun, 23 Nov 2008 05:31:06 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=111#comment-339 Dear Mike, I highly appreciate your article on" tell the turth".Ofcourse in needs courage but it is always good to say the truth. I have often taken it for granted that but I realise it is very important and it will also improve my relationship with people and make me a much more lovable person. Thank you for sharing your insight with me. Limarose. Dear Mike,
I highly appreciate your article on” tell the turth”.Ofcourse in needs courage but it is always good to say the truth. I have often taken it for granted that but I realise it is very important and it will also improve my relationship with people and make me a much more lovable person.
Thank you for sharing your insight with me.
Limarose.

]]> By: Mike Robbins - Check Out His Great Newsletter | Jenny Evans Dunham http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2008/11/tell-them-the-truth/#comment-338 Mike Robbins - Check Out His Great Newsletter | Jenny Evans Dunham Fri, 21 Nov 2008 22:51:06 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=111#comment-338 [...] of appreciation. This week his newsletter article is about telling the truth. You can read it here . He also has a corresponding audio you can listen [...] […] of appreciation. This week his newsletter article is about telling the truth. You can read it here . He also has a corresponding audio you can listen […]

]]> By: Colm http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2008/11/tell-them-the-truth/#comment-337 Colm Thu, 20 Nov 2008 23:01:22 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=111#comment-337 Mike, I received this newsletter from somebody very special and dear to my heart. She is a truth speaker and I have not found it easy to speak my truths to her, for fear of loosing her, fear that I would push her away etc. So while I am thinking my truth instead of saying it, the result is that she pulls back, just the opposite of what I want. So when she sent this to me today I knew on reading, that my truth is all that matters to me and that I must speak up and be heard. Love and connection cannot exist without truth speaking. So I thank you for putting this into words today, for me to read and see it today, as all timing is perfect. Blessings and thank you. Colm Mike,
I received this newsletter from somebody very special and dear to my heart. She is a truth speaker and I have not found it easy to speak my truths to her, for fear of loosing her, fear that I would push her away etc. So while I am thinking my truth instead of saying it, the result is that she pulls back, just the opposite of what I want.
So when she sent this to me today I knew on reading, that my truth is all that matters to me and that I must speak up and be heard. Love and connection cannot exist without truth speaking.
So I thank you for putting this into words today, for me to read and see it today, as all timing is perfect.
Blessings and thank you.
Colm

]]> By: Denice Gigoux http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2008/11/tell-them-the-truth/#comment-335 Denice Gigoux Thu, 20 Nov 2008 17:43:53 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=111#comment-335 Hi Mike, This article was an answer to prayer (literally). Thanks for doing this type of newsletter with such great insights for all of us. I need to take this, print it, digest it a couple of times, and then act on it. Love your newsletter Mike! Denice Hi Mike,

This article was an answer to prayer (literally). Thanks for doing this type of newsletter with such great insights for all of us. I need to take this, print it, digest it a couple of times, and then act on it.

Love your newsletter Mike!

Denice

]]> By: Deborah Zeni http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2008/11/tell-them-the-truth/#comment-334 Deborah Zeni Thu, 20 Nov 2008 17:43:09 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=111#comment-334 Hi Mike ! I had several people tell me how they were going to miss you as our motivational speaker this year at NorthWest in Santa Rosa. We down sized our annual meeting to local two hour meetings this year which made sense for us this year. I don't have a personal "truth" to speak to in a relationship however your article reminded me of something very powerfull that my 12 year old son is learning in his TaeKwando Leadership class that is similar to what you are saying. The topic is Praise. The students are taught to give Praise to other students. However the Praise is to be S&R. Specific and Real. The example given in the last session was... Find something that is really going right and point it out, then help them transfer that same strength to a weak point. Instead of saying their form is awesome, or they look great... be specific. Tell them "That side-kick was really strong". "You have a lot of power when you put your weight in your back stance before going into the side-kick." Then trasfer that to a weak area... "I bet if you practice using the same technic on your round kick you will have great power there too". "Let's try it together" The Specific and Real is great in the work place too. When you talk about someone's strengths and then let them know what you can work on together to make other areas strong too, it really makes people feel good and let's them know you care and your paying attention. Hi Mike ! I had several people tell me how they were going to miss you as our motivational speaker this year at NorthWest in Santa Rosa. We down sized our annual meeting to local two hour meetings this year which made sense for us this year.

I don’t have a personal “truth” to speak to in a relationship however your article reminded me of something very powerfull that my 12 year old son is learning in his TaeKwando Leadership class that is similar to what you are saying.

The topic is Praise. The students are taught to give Praise to other students. However the Praise is to be S&R. Specific and Real. The example given in the last session was… Find something that is really going right and point it out, then help them transfer that same strength to a weak point.

Instead of saying their form is awesome, or they look great… be specific. Tell them “That side-kick was really strong”. “You have a lot of power when you put your weight in your back stance before going into the side-kick.” Then trasfer that to a weak area… “I bet if you practice using the same technic on your round kick you will have great power there too”. “Let’s try it together”

The Specific and Real is great in the work place too. When you talk about someone’s strengths and then let them know what you can work on together to make other areas strong too, it really makes people feel good and let’s them know you care and your paying attention.

]]> By: Laura http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2008/11/tell-them-the-truth/#comment-333 Laura Thu, 20 Nov 2008 17:37:33 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=111#comment-333 Awesome blog today! My family has been working on these skills under the guidance of coaches from The Williams Group. It is not easy! But it can lead to closer, more intimate relationships if people are open to learning how to communicate this way. You are so right when you say that it is important to ask permission first. Even if (or especially when) we are dealing with younger family members like teenagers, opening a difficult conversation by asking for permission first makes it more likely to take the conversation and the relationship in a positive direction. Also, focusing on what we care about during these conversations helps keep both sides open to learning more about the relationship and how things can be improved. Throughout this process, we have been working on building trust in our relationships. There is risk in "telling the truth," but, as you said, imagine "what would be possible in your relationship with them if you spoke up?" My husband has worked these skills into coaching baseball players at our academy. Kids often need help in handling situations where coaches do not have good communication skills, yet the players need to speak up. Our greatest wish is that coaches would be open to learning these skills too! Awesome blog today! My family has been working on these skills under the guidance of coaches from The Williams Group. It is not easy! But it can lead to closer, more intimate relationships if people are open to learning how to communicate this way. You are so right when you say that it is important to ask permission first. Even if (or especially when) we are dealing with younger family members like teenagers, opening a difficult conversation by asking for permission first makes it more likely to take the conversation and the relationship in a positive direction. Also, focusing on what we care about during these conversations helps keep both sides open to learning more about the relationship and how things can be improved.

Throughout this process, we have been working on building trust in our relationships. There is risk in “telling the truth,” but, as you said, imagine “what would be possible in your relationship with them if you spoke up?”

My husband has worked these skills into coaching baseball players at our academy. Kids often need help in handling situations where coaches do not have good communication skills, yet the players need to speak up. Our greatest wish is that coaches would be open to learning these skills too!

]]> By: Adrianne Machina http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2008/11/tell-them-the-truth/#comment-332 Adrianne Machina Thu, 20 Nov 2008 17:30:16 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=111#comment-332 Mike, It's important to speak the truth - but in a loving way. Sometimes people use "Well, it's the truth!" as a way to defend being mean. And of course, the only result those people will get is defensiveness. Such a great reminder to us all that you can be nice and honest too! Adrianne Machina Mike,

It’s important to speak the truth - but in a loving way. Sometimes people use “Well, it’s the truth!” as a way to defend being mean. And of course, the only result those people will get is defensiveness.

Such a great reminder to us all that you can be nice and honest too!

Adrianne Machina

]]> By: John Rexroat http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2008/11/tell-them-the-truth/#comment-331 John Rexroat Thu, 20 Nov 2008 16:43:47 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=111#comment-331 Being able to tell the "truth" and not some watered down version is a good way to measure the level of trust in a relationship. If I have to fear stating my truth, I may need to examine the relationship to see why. Oh darn, I hate it when that happens. Remmeber, if you always tell the truth, you never have to remember what you said. Blessings John Being able to tell the “truth” and not some watered down version is a good way to measure the level of trust in a relationship. If I have to fear stating my truth, I may need to examine the relationship to see why. Oh darn, I hate it when that happens.

Remmeber, if you always tell the truth, you never have to remember what you said.

Blessings
John

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