Comments on: Resolving Conflict http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2009/06/resolving-conflict/ The Power of Appreciation Sat, 04 Feb 2012 03:23:17 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: ise123 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2009/06/resolving-conflict/#comment-1369 ise123 Thu, 23 Jun 2011 15:00:09 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=145#comment-1369 This article is quite interesting specially for students who loves to read article to improve their capabilities. <b><a href="http://www.mahut.co.il/?categoryId=626" rel="nofollow">www.mahut.co.il/?categoryId=626</a></b> This article is quite interesting specially for students who loves to read article to improve their capabilities.

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]]> By: Cathy Morrey http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2009/06/resolving-conflict/#comment-1340 Cathy Morrey Mon, 09 May 2011 02:41:51 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=145#comment-1340 Mike, I love your blogs and video clips. Thank you for being an amazing human being on this planet. You make a huge difference with people! Cathy Mike, I love your blogs and video clips. Thank you for being an amazing human being on this planet. You make a huge difference with people! Cathy

]]> By: Zamora Lanz http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2009/06/resolving-conflict/#comment-1319 Zamora Lanz Thu, 21 Apr 2011 07:33:29 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=145#comment-1319 It is easy to solve a conflict if there is understanding and forgiveness. It will also depend on the person who are involved. It is easy to solve a conflict if there is understanding and forgiveness. It will also depend on the person who are involved.

]]> By: Scott "Q" Marcus http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2009/06/resolving-conflict/#comment-423 Scott "Q" Marcus Thu, 11 Jun 2009 17:41:49 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=145#comment-423 Hi Mike, Nice piece. Years ago, I learned a concept called "Fair Fighting" to help resolve conflicts. It has 4 simple rules and when you (and the other person) agree to follow them, it really works. 1) All statements begin with "I." This prevents blame and forces the speaker to "own" his part of the issue. 2) No interrupting. Too often, we're formulating our defense instead of listening to what the other person is saying. 3) No denials. Since each person is following rule #1, s/he is owning what s/he is saying. How can anyone deny one's perception? 4) No cross complaints. Stay on one topic. Past and other issues will be handled at another time. It's a great technique. Of course, you have to be willing to use it. Keep up the good work. Hi Mike,

Nice piece. Years ago, I learned a concept called “Fair Fighting” to help resolve conflicts. It has 4 simple rules and when you (and the other person) agree to follow them, it really works.

1) All statements begin with “I.” This prevents blame and forces the speaker to “own” his part of the issue.
2) No interrupting. Too often, we’re formulating our defense instead of listening to what the other person is saying.
3) No denials. Since each person is following rule #1, s/he is owning what s/he is saying. How can anyone deny one’s perception?
4) No cross complaints. Stay on one topic. Past and other issues will be handled at another time.

It’s a great technique. Of course, you have to be willing to use it.

Keep up the good work.

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