Comments for Mike Robbins' Blog http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog The Power of Appreciation Sun, 21 Mar 2010 02:35:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 Comment on The Power of No by Cristina http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2010/03/the-power-of-no/#comment-682 Cristina Fri, 19 Mar 2010 04:41:07 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=229#comment-682 I find it is not only authentically saying no out loud, but saying nothing. Just because someone calls, emails, or asks us a question, doesn't mean we have to respond immediately. Saying no, can simply mean not reacting. Taking our time to think. Sometimes, we can silently say no. It means taking care of ourselves when we don't know what to say to a loved one, boss, or friend. I've been hanging back lately and not reacting and it has met with wonderful outcomes. I can say no to someone else's sense of timing. Conversely, it means having patience when my question, request, is not reacted to on my time line. I find it is not only authentically saying no out loud, but saying nothing. Just because someone calls, emails, or asks us a question, doesn’t mean we have to respond immediately. Saying no, can simply mean not reacting. Taking our time to think. Sometimes, we can silently say no. It means taking care of ourselves when we don’t know what to say to a loved one, boss, or friend. I’ve been hanging back lately and not reacting and it has met with wonderful outcomes. I can say no to someone else’s sense of timing. Conversely, it means having patience when my question, request, is not reacted to on my time line.

]]> Comment on The Power of No by Barry Friedman http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2010/03/the-power-of-no/#comment-681 Barry Friedman Thu, 18 Mar 2010 18:57:42 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=229#comment-681 Amazing timing, Mike! Yesterday someone called and asked me to do something that I didn't really want to do and I said 'no'. I was so taken with my courage (why did that take courage?!?!) that I went and told my wife about it. I was almost shaking. Love your piece about this. I'm going to do it again, right now. Off I go! Barry 'only if I want to' Friedman Amazing timing, Mike!

Yesterday someone called and asked me to do something that I didn’t really want to do and I said ‘no’.

I was so taken with my courage (why did that take courage?!?!) that I went and told my wife about it. I was almost shaking.

Love your piece about this. I’m going to do it again, right now. Off I go!

Barry ‘only if I want to’ Friedman

]]> Comment on The Power of No - Audio by eric belair http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2010/03/the-power-of-no-audio/#comment-680 eric belair Thu, 18 Mar 2010 12:10:26 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=228#comment-680 I agree with the fact that if its not a 100percent yes its mean NO,Peoples should take the enrgy to focus on the NO GO for realy feel great about managing their own time,most of the thing peoples do its doing urgent things, and 99 pct of urgent things to do it not for us but for others, use your NO answer to get more quality time to do your IMPORTANT THINGS, thigns that get you were you want to go and feel the way yoy want, Bye for now Eric Bélair Summit and Potentiel coach who give the why cafe books to all my client !!! I agree with the fact that if its not a 100percent yes its mean NO,Peoples should take the enrgy to focus on the NO GO for realy feel great about managing their own time,most of the thing peoples do its doing urgent things, and 99 pct of urgent things to do it not for us but for others, use your NO answer to get more quality time to do your IMPORTANT THINGS, thigns that get you were you want to go and feel the way yoy want,
Bye for now
Eric Bélair
Summit and Potentiel
coach who give the why cafe books to all my client !!!

]]> Comment on The Power of No by Jennifer http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2010/03/the-power-of-no/#comment-679 Jennifer Thu, 18 Mar 2010 04:00:09 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=229#comment-679 This issue comes up for me at work more frequently than I'd care to admit. I think part of the reason it's hard to say no does have to do with the culture and what is considered acceptable, but, definitely also comes from my own fears of letting others down and/or not appearing to be cooperative. And, deep in the recesses of my mind (not to mention in the midst of an ongoing recession) is a fear that not submitting could mean loss of employment or recognition. I have been saying no more lately though, and it's very freeing. It helps when you can keep yourself from worrying about what others are thinking. That seems to be the biggest hurdle. Then again, that's probably a whole post in and of itself! This issue comes up for me at work more frequently than I’d care to admit. I think part of the reason it’s hard to say no does have to do with the culture and what is considered acceptable, but, definitely also comes from my own fears of letting others down and/or not appearing to be cooperative. And, deep in the recesses of my mind (not to mention in the midst of an ongoing recession) is a fear that not submitting could mean loss of employment or recognition.

I have been saying no more lately though, and it’s very freeing. It helps when you can keep yourself from worrying about what others are thinking. That seems to be the biggest hurdle. Then again, that’s probably a whole post in and of itself!

]]> Comment on The Power of No by Pamela http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2010/03/the-power-of-no/#comment-678 Pamela Thu, 18 Mar 2010 00:56:02 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=229#comment-678 Being authentic in all realms leads to greatest alignment, but the word "no" is not used much in my corporate workplace. Culturally, seen as not being partner-oriented or cooperative/productive. Diverting to offering other options is what is supported versus the - at times more authentic - no. Just an observation... Being authentic in all realms leads to greatest alignment, but the word “no” is not used much in my corporate workplace. Culturally, seen as not being partner-oriented or cooperative/productive. Diverting to offering other options is what is supported versus the - at times more authentic - no. Just an observation…

]]> Comment on The Power of No - Audio by Clea Holdridge http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2010/03/the-power-of-no-audio/#comment-677 Clea Holdridge Thu, 18 Mar 2010 00:22:15 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=228#comment-677 YES and NO, Are expressions of who I am at the time, if they come from a sincere place they are the same. I agree, it's not allways so clear, if there is some agenda,we want to impress, or manipulate or hide, we loose the connection with who we are, we loose the clarity, the integrity of who we are. Thank you, I appreciate the opportunity to become clear. Clea YES and NO, Are expressions of who I am at the time, if they come from a sincere place they are the same. I agree, it’s not allways so clear, if there is some agenda,we want to impress, or manipulate or hide, we loose the connection with who we are, we loose the clarity, the integrity of who we are. Thank you, I appreciate the opportunity to become clear. Clea

]]> Comment on The Power of No by Mary McManus http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2010/03/the-power-of-no/#comment-676 Mary McManus Wed, 17 Mar 2010 23:49:30 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=229#comment-676 Dear Mike - I am constantly amazed at the synchronicity of your blog. There have been a series of happenings in my life in which I have needed to find the courage to say no. For years I said yes to everyone but myself and I like to think of saying no to someone else as saying yes to me. I was such a yes woman that my body finally let me know this was unacceptable and I was diagnosed with post polio syndrome. BUT once I started saying no to others and yes to myself I did experience incredible healing of mind, body and spirit. It is incredibly freeing to listen to my authentic self and say no. Most recently, I was having a lot of contact with my in laws. When I am talking with them or with them I find that I am playing a role to satisfy them and when I am authentic they become enraged and critical. So I finally had to say no to any more contact with them and I feel so liberated as does my husband. And you know what? When I say no to the people and situations which do not honor my true self, it makes room for the people with whom I can be my true self and with whom I can flourish and grow and live a life in the Spirit to come flooding in. Dear Mike - I am constantly amazed at the synchronicity of your blog. There have been a series of happenings in my life in which I have needed to find the courage to say no. For years I said yes to everyone but myself and I like to think of saying no to someone else as saying yes to me. I was such a yes woman that my body finally let me know this was unacceptable and I was diagnosed with post polio syndrome. BUT once I started saying no to others and yes to myself I did experience incredible healing of mind, body and spirit. It is incredibly freeing to listen to my authentic self and say no. Most recently, I was having a lot of contact with my in laws. When I am talking with them or with them I find that I am playing a role to satisfy them and when I am authentic they become enraged and critical. So I finally had to say no to any more contact with them and I feel so liberated as does my husband. And you know what? When I say no to the people and situations which do not honor my true self, it makes room for the people with whom I can be my true self and with whom I can flourish and grow and live a life in the Spirit to come flooding in.

]]> Comment on The Art of Allowing - Audio by Clea Holdridge http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2010/03/the-art-of-allowing-audio/#comment-675 Clea Holdridge Wed, 17 Mar 2010 23:41:42 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=227#comment-675 Allowing is an art,and we do it all the time, we allow ourselves to fall asleep, wake up, digest our meals, love someone, breathe.I feel better when I balance all the allowing with some doing, I cant exercise and allow at the same time, it works best if I have an intention and a follow through. At the same time,I can't have an intention to dream. Balance seems to work best. It's lovely to contemplate this aspect of ourselves, Thank you Clea Allowing is an art,and we do it all the time, we allow ourselves to fall asleep, wake up, digest our meals, love someone, breathe.I feel better when I balance all the allowing with some doing, I cant exercise and allow at the same time, it works best if I have an intention and a follow through. At the same time,I can’t have an intention to dream. Balance seems to work best. It’s lovely to contemplate this aspect of ourselves, Thank you Clea

]]> Comment on The Power of No - Audio by The Power of No | Mike Robbins' Blog http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2010/03/the-power-of-no-audio/#comment-674 The Power of No | Mike Robbins' Blog Wed, 17 Mar 2010 19:19:07 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=228#comment-674 [...] The Power of No - Audio [...] […] The Power of No - Audio […]

]]> Comment on The Art of Allowing - Audio by Jon http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/2010/03/the-art-of-allowing-audio/#comment-673 Jon Fri, 12 Mar 2010 05:10:19 +0000 http://www.mike-robbins.com/blog/?p=227#comment-673 Hey Mike , Very cool. So many messages have been about being receptive, or a receptor, lately. Keyword is 'being'; it's not passive. Ever hear of Ho'oponopono? Google it. No expectations, no plans. Just clean and clean and clean. I love you, I am sorry, please forgive me, and thankyou. Hey Mike ,
Very cool. So many messages have been about being receptive, or a receptor, lately. Keyword is ‘being’; it’s not passive.
Ever hear of Ho’oponopono?
Google it. No expectations, no plans. Just clean and clean and clean.
I love you, I am sorry, please forgive me, and thankyou.

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