June 3, 2010

In This Issue

Featured Article: Be Your Own Cheerleader

Announcements

Daddy's Little Girls

Hey there, how are you doing today?  I hope all is well and that you're excited about the approaching summer.  I love this time of year - so much to enjoy and appreciate.

Last week's article, "Be Flexible," got some great feedback.  If you missed it or want to re-read it, you can check it out on my blog or on The Huffington Post.  You can also check out my most recent Oprah.com article, The Art of Allowing.

Have a good one - remember to be kind and loving to yourself today!  I'm grateful to have you on my email list.

With Appreciation,



P.S. For those of you who live in here in the Bay Area, I’m speaking at Unity in Marin (Novato, CA) on 6/13 and at the Golden Gate Center for Spiritual Living (Corte Madera, CA) on 6/20. For more information about these events, check out our events page.


Be Your Own Cheerleader

(For this week's audio message, click here.)

I recently saw a wonderful video on YouTube that has been making its way around the internet of a little girl passionately affirming herself and her life in the bathroom mirror ("My whole house is great, I like my hair, I can do anything, I like my family," etc.)  If you haven't had a chance to see it, check it out - it's adorable, funny, and a beautiful example of appreciation in action.

I showed it to my four year old daughter Samantha (who is close to the same age as the girl in the video).  Samantha loved it and asked me if she could do the same thing herself.  She ran into the bathroom, got up on the counter, and began to do her own affirmations in the mirror.  It was beautiful, hilarious, and quite heartwarming to see her cheering about herself and her life in such a positive and passionate way.

Not only was Samantha excited about doing this, there was no shame, guilt, or embarrassment on her part as she did it.  Her baby sister, Rosie (who is almost two now), is a big fan of laughing, smiling, and kissing herself in the full length mirror we have in our bedroom.  So cute!  I'm amazed and inspired by how many little ones seem to have an innate sense of appreciation for themselves, as if it's hardwired into them at birth.

Sadly, this high regard many of us have for ourselves and our lives as babies, toddlers, and even little kids, is often "trained" out of us as we learn the ways of the "real" world.  Directly and indirectly we hear and see things that lead us to believe that we are not good enough, need to be fixed, and are fundamentally flawed.  We also learn early on that it's not cool, socially acceptable, or even appropriate to act, think, or speak about ourselves in ways that may be perceived as overly positive or downright arrogant.

Even for those of us, like me and most of you reading this article, who understand the importance of self appreciation and self love, the act of expressing and experiencing love for ourselves can be tricky.  Once we get over the negative stigma or our fear of being judged (which is often an ongoing process), we then have to deal with our own obsession with criticizing ourselves, as well as the fact that we may not actually know how to love and appreciate ourselves in an authentic way.

However, when we truly love ourselves, most of what we worry about and even much of what we strive for in life becomes meaningless. We may still have some worries, and we'll definitely continue to have goals, dreams and desires. However, from a place of true self appreciation and self love, the fear behind our worries and the motivation for our goals dramatically changes from something we have to avoid or produce in order to be accepted and valued to something we're genuinely concerned about or really want to accomplish.

In other words, when we wait for other people, the accomplishment of specific goals, or the manifestation of ideal circumstances to create the excitement, joy, and inspiration for our lives - we give away our personal power and live in an insatiable way.  Cheering for ourselves with passion, and with a true sense of love and appreciation is not arrogant, it’s actually required if we're going to live a life of fulfillment, gratitude, and meaning.

Arrogance is based on fear and insecurity.  Whenever I catch myself doing or saying anything arrogant (which I do on a pretty regular basis), it's because I'm feeling insecure, wanting someone to like me or be impressed with me, or trying to compensate for some perceived "lack" within or about myself.  There's nothing "evil" about us being arrogant, it's just not all that much fun for us or others - and living our life from a place of arrogance can cause a great deal of pain, suffering, and hurt for ourselves and those around us.

Authentic self appreciation is about loving, valuing, and honoring ourselves, our gifts, and all of who we are - both light and dark.  The words, thoughts, and feelings may seem similar to arrogance, however, they're not.  Energetically, self appreciation comes from a very different place within us than arrogance does.  The more we practice loving and appreciating ourselves, the easier it is for us to tell the difference.

Here is a list of some things you can do to practice loving, appreciating, and cheering for yourself in an authentic and powerful way:

• Speak about yourself positively
• When someone compliments you - breathe, let it in, and say "thank you" (don't discount it)
• Say affirmations to yourself in the mirror, and use your first name (i.e. "I love you, Mike")
• Write down things you appreciate about yourself in your journal on a regular basis
• Send yourself an email or card of appreciation - from you, to you
• Buy yourself flowers or some token of appreciation that makes you feel good
• Ask for the acknowledgment you'd like
• Make requests of others (remember that you don't have to do it all yourself)
• Take time for yourself and by yourself
• Celebrate your successes (big and small) and pat yourself on the back regularly

Many of the things on this list fall into the category of "simple but not easy" for most of us.  And, there are clearly many more things each of us can do and practice as we enhance our capacity for self love and appreciation.  The key is our intention, not what we do specifically.

If we start to think of ourselves as our most important ally, friend, and, ultimately, cheerleader, we can alter our own internal relationship and begin to count on ourselves in new, inspiring, and important ways.

Being our own cheerleader is not about bragging, boasting, or being better than anyone else - it's about honoring, appreciating, and loving ourselves in a real way.  On this journey of life we are with ourselves in every moment - the more capacity we have to love ourselves, the more ability we have in turn to love others and share our gifts with the world.

What can you do to be your own cheerleader in your life right now?  What do you appreciate and love about yourself?  Share your thoughts, action ideas, insights, and more on my blog here.

To listen to this week's audio message, including additional thoughts, ideas, and tips, click here.




Great New Book - The Healing Code,
by Dr. Alex Loyd and Dr. Ben Johnson

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Audio Course - Be Yourself

As I've mentioned the past few weeks, we recently launched my four-part audio class, Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken: Transform Your Life and Work with the Power of Authenticity.  This course, recorded live with a group of participants who went through my telecourse program in March, is an engaging, inspiring, and practical journey which teaches you to move beyond fear and limitation, and step into who you truly are in an authentic way. The ideas, principles, and exercises laid out in this powerful audio-class will allow you to: Express yourself fully and with confidence, Confront and transform fear, Take risks and go for what you truly want, and Have more freedom and confidence in your work, relationships, and life!  For more information about this powerful course and to purchase it at a discount, click here.

"We are great cheerleaders for ourselves
(and for each other too)!"
- Samantha and Annarose Robbins

To see more photos of us and
our mommy and daddy, click here.