October 7, 2009
In This Issue
Featured Article: Be, Do, Have
Announcements
Speaking Schedule
Daddy's Little Girls
Welcome to this week’s issue of Appreciation (and Authenticity) in Action.
I hope things are good on your end and that you are appreciating yourself, those around you, and life in an authentic way. We always have a choice about how we think and feel – even though it may not always seem like it.
If you didn’t get a chance to hear my interview with Montel Williams last week on his radio show, Montel Across America, click here to listen to a clip of it.
Speaking of radio, I’m super excited that my new radio show, “Let’s Get Real with Mike Robbins” has just launched on Energy Talk Radio. It airs daily online at 5:00 PM PT (as well as each Friday at noon PT) via the live stream. You can also listen to any of my previously aired shows on-demand, at any time by clicking here.
If you live in the Peninsula/South Bay area of the Bay Area – I am speaking down there a few times this week. And, if you are in the Phoenix Area, I will be there next weekend for public events on 10/16 and 10/18. For specific info and details, check out my speaking schedule below or my public events page.
Have a great day and rest of your week. Thanks for being on my list!
With Gratitude,
Be, Do, Have
(For this week’s audio message, click here.)
Just this past week, I realized I had fallen into a familiar, but unhealthy pattern for me. Sometimes when I get stressed out or anxious I go unconscious, hunker down, and try to grind it out – assuming that if I just work harder, make things happen, and get on top of my long to-do list, everything will work out. In addition, in the midst of my own confusion and fear, the cynic in me comes out and says, “All of this personal development, psycho babble is meaningless – it’s all about discipline, focus, and luck.” (Maybe you can relate to this?)
However, as I’ve learned throughout my life, being cynical and resigned (two states of being I’m not a huge fan of, but seem to have quite a bit of experience with), don’t usually help me manifest my dreams or live in a state of fulfillment, gratitude, or authenticity. How about you?
I remember learning about the concept of “Be, Do, Have” for the first time about ten years ago. Most of us think we need to "have" a certain thing or set of things (more money, love, time, experience, etc.), so that we can finally "do" something important (pursue our passion, start a business, go on vacation, create a relationship, buy a home, etc.), which will then allow us to "be" what we truly want in life (peaceful, fulfilled, inspired, generous, in love, etc.). In actuality, it works the other way around.
First we "be" what we want (peaceful, loving, inspired, abundant, successful, or whatever), then we start "doing" things from this state of being - and soon we discover that what we’re doing winds up bringing us the things we've always wanted to "have."
Whether or not this concept is new to you and even though on the surface it may seem either counter-intuitive or confusing (or both), it’s actually quite powerful and life-altering when we really get it and practice it in our lives. I have personally experienced the profound impact of living in alignment with this “Be, Do, Have” paradigm – although more often than not, I either forget, don’t trust, or simply assume it can’t be this easy. Making our goals and dreams happen is supposed to be hard, painful, and dramatic, right? Well, maybe it doesn’t have to be.
What if we were able to live in alignment with this powerful principle of Be, Do, Have more of the time? What if we remembered that we have the capacity to experience any state of being at any time – not just when things “work out” perfectly or we achieve exactly what we’re after. There’s nothing wrong with us pursuing our goals and our dreams with passion. However, when we erroneously think that the fulfillment of any specific goal, dream, or accomplishment will give us what we truly want to have in life, we delude ourselves and set ourselves up for failure, disappointment, and pain.
Remembering that who and how we’re “being” in life creates the context for how we think, feel, and act (some of the key raw materials for how we ultimately create our reality), gives us access to what we’re really after. We don’t have to suffer and struggle as much as we do, we actually have the capacity to live our life with a true sense of elegance (the deeper meaning of this word is not about the appearance of something, but is about being able to put forth a small amount of focused effort, and manifest an abundant result).
Here are a few things we can do to remember and practice BEING who and how we want to in life.
1) Think of one or more of the biggest goals or dreams in your life right now. What is it that you think the accomplishment of this goal will bring you (i.e. fulfillment, joy, abundance, peace, freedom, etc.)
2) Start embodying that state of being that you assume will come from the accomplishment of this goal. For example, you may start “being” joyful (as if you already accomplished your goal). It’s not about “faking it,” it’s about authentically embodying the desired states of being you truly want in your life.
3) From this state of being, think about, talk about, and speculate the kinds of specific actions you might want to take. Allow yourself to sit with this for a while, don’t be in too much of a hurry. If you really allow yourself to come from this empowered state of being, the actions will start to show up with ease and your ability to both take them and allow them to work will increase exponentially.
Have fun with this, get support from those around you, talk to people about this, and know that you will probably trip and fall many times along the way. As we’ve all heard many times, but it is important to reiterate here, we are human beings, not human doings. When we remember this, our life can really take off in a profound and fulfilling way.
Where in your life are you obsessed with “doing” and can you now see would serve you to put more attention on “being?” Share your thoughts, action ideas, insights, and more on my blog here.
For this week’s audio message (including additional tips and suggestions) – click here.
My New Radio Show is On The Air!
I’m so excited to announce that my new radio show, “Let’s Get Real with Mike Robbins,” is now live on Energy Talk Radio! It airs daily online at 5:00 PM PT (as well as each Friday at noon PT) via the live stream. You can also listen to any of my previously aired shows on-demand, at any time by clicking here. Feel free to listen live or on-demand, and let others know about it. I’ve recently had some great guests on my show like Gay Hendricks, Fred Luskin, and SARK. I hope you enjoy the show and email in questions or ideas for future shows.
Join me for a FREE teleseminar on 10/20 at 6:30 PM PT
I’m excited to once again be offering a free teleseminar through MaestroConfernce. My teleseminar is one of more than 80 trainings during MaestroMonth – a truly amazing offering in October from world-class leaders such as Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, Michael Bernard Beckwith, T. Harv Eker, and John Gray. The trainings in health, personal growth, business, spirituality and societal change feature more than a dozen NY Times bestselling authors, all helping you to unleash your full potential. I'm excited to be part of this group. My teleseminar, “Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken,” happens on October 20th at 6:30 PM PT. For more information and to register, click here.
Two Great New Books:
The Shark and the Goldfish, by Jon Gordon
My friend and bestselling author Jon Gordon has just released a great new book called The Shark and the Goldfish: Positive Ways to Thrive During Waves of Change. This book is a short fable about overcoming adversity and fear. In the face of adversity, there is a proven truth—you can’t control the events in your life but you can control how you respond to them. You can allow the waves of change to crush you or you can learn to ride them to a successful future. Delightfully illustrated and packed with tips and strategies for thriving during tough times, The Shark and The Goldfish is a quick read that will have a life-long impact. To learn more and order copies today click here.
Gift of the Jaguar, by John and Sharon Franklin
Discover the real treasure of Peru in Gift of the Jaguar! Inspired by a dream to “take a thousand of their closest friends to Peru, fifteen at a time,” Doctors John and Sharon Franklin have introduced numerous western-trained health care professionals and others to the wisdom of Peru. In their new book Gift of the Jaguar John and Sharon want you to experience the power of your imagination and create your path to joy, health, and abundance!
Click here for details.
My interview on Montel Across America
If you didn’t get a chance to hear my interview with Montel Williams last week on his radio show, Montel Across America, click here to listen to a clip of it. Montel’s new radio show is aired across the country on Air America radio and around the world on the internet. It is a great show with a huge audience. I was honored to be a guest on this show and enjoyed my interview with Montel a great deal. Check it out!
Come See Michael Beckwith in Marin – Oct. 13th
If you live here in the Bay Area, there is a great opportunity to see one of the most amazing speakers and thought leaders of our time live and in person. My friend, Rev. Michael Bernard Beckwith, founder of the Agape International Spiritual Center in Los Angeles and featured teacher in The Secret is speaking next week, Tuesday, October 13th, at the Marin Civic Center in San Rafael, CA. For information about this wonderful event and to purchase tickets, click on this link.
Connect with me on Facebook and Twitter
If you’d like to connect with me on Facebook or Twitter, click one or both of these links:
Where I’m Speaking:
Below is a list of where and when I’m speaking for the next few months. Most of these events are for my corporate or organizational clients (i.e. not open to the public). The ones in bold, however, are public events. I hope to see you at one of these!
For all my upcoming public events, check out this link. And, if you live in any of the cities where I’ll be traveling and want to contact me about setting up a speaking engagement for your group or company while I’m in town, feel free to contact me.
10/7/09 – San Jose, CA (SVCC)
10/9/09 – Palo Alto, CA (eWomen Network)
10/15/09 – Scottsdale, AZ
10/16/09 – Tempe, AZ (Changing Hands Bookstore)
10/18/09 – Scottsdale, AZ (IONS)
10/28/09 – San Jose, CA
10/29/09 – Hollywood, FL
11/10/09 – Dominican Republic
11/16/09 – San Francisco, CA
11/17/09 – San Francisco, CA
11/18/09 – San Francisco, CA
11/19/09 – San Jose, CA
12/10/09 – Redwood City, CA
12/13/09 – Santa Rosa, CA (CSLSR)
12/15/09 – San Ramon, CA
Again, for a full list of my upcoming public events, check out: http://www.beyourselfbook.com/events.htm.
“Be, Do, Have? Whatever! We just like to play!”
- Samantha and Annarose Robbins
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our mommy and daddy, click here.
